Couples & Premarital
It's not you against each other. It's the pattern between you.
Therapy for partners stuck in the same recurring conflict — and for couples preparing for marriage who want to start on honest, steady ground.
Most couples don't come in because love is gone. They come because the same hurt keeps repeating, and both people have started to feel alone inside the relationship they're working to protect.
The problem usually isn't either of you — it's the pattern between you. My job is to help you see it clearly, fairly, and from both sides, so you can start meeting each other again instead of the cycle.
What to expect
Name the cycle together
We map the loop you keep landing in — the trigger, the reaction, and what each of you is actually trying to protect underneath.
Slow the conversation down
When things heat up, we pause. You'll learn to hear what's being asked for, not just how loudly it's said.
Rebuild trust through small repairs
Concrete, repeatable repairs that change how safe and understood you feel with each other over time.
Gottman, in plain English
Decades of research on what actually keeps couples close: how you start hard conversations, how you repair after a rupture, and how you stay friends in the middle of ordinary life. We translate the research into small, doable shifts.
IFS for two
Each of you arrives with parts — protectors, worriers, the part that shuts down, the part that pushes. When you can speak for those parts instead of from them, the same conversation goes a different way.
Premarital track
A focused 6–8 session arc covering communication, conflict, money, family of origin, intimacy, and shared meaning. You'll leave with a clearer picture of who you are together — and the tools to keep building.
Wondering if this could help?
A free 15-minute call is a low-pressure way to start. We'll talk through what's been hard and what you're hoping for.